LOVE....

A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large celebration. All of
their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of
the festivities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very
dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for
each other was true.

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: “I read
in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage.” she
offered.

“Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with
the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and
make our lives happier together.”

The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and
thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about
this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.

The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go
over their lists.

“I’ll start,” offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on
it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the
little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her
husbands eyes.

“What’s wrong?” she asked. “Nothing” the husband replied, “keep reading your
list.”

The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her
husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over
top of it.

“Now, you read your list and then we’ll talk about the things on both of our
lists.” She said happily.

Quietly the husband stated, “I don’t have anything on my list. I think that
you are perfect the way that you are. I don’t want you to change anything
for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try and change
anything about you.”

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his
acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and
annoyed. We don’t really have to go looking for them.

We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.

Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying
things when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?
I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST WHEN we see and praise the good and try our
best to forego the mistakes of our spouse Nobody’s perfect but we can find
perfection in them to change the way we see them. It is necessary to
understand the difficulties and be a helping hand to each other….THAT
BRIGHTENS THE RELATIONSHIP.

भूल जाता हूँ

तुम्हारा नाम लिख लिख कर मिटाना भूल जाता हूँ
तुम्हें जब याद करता हूँ , भुलाना भूल जाता हूँ
बहुत सी ऐसी बातें हैं जो मेरे दिल में रहती हैं
मगर जब तुम से मिलता हूँ , सुनाना भूल जाता हूँ
तुम्हारे बाद अब हर पल बड़ी मुश्किल से कटता है
मै अक्सर तुम को खुवाबों में , बताना भूल जाता हूँ
मै हर शाम कहता हूँ तुम को भूल जाऊँगा
मगर जब सुबह होती है , इरादा भूल जाता हूँ

21 advices

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.


TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.








THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.








FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.






FIVE. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye.






SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.






SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.






EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.








NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.





TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.






ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.




TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.






THIRTEEN! . When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'






FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.






FIFTEEN. Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze.






SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.






SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.






EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.






NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.






TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.






TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone.

A Friend....

A Friend....
(A)ccepts you as you are
(B)elieves in "you"
(C)alls you just to say "HI"
(D)oesn't give up on you
(E)nvisions the whole of you (even the unfinished parts)
(F)orgives your mistakes
(G)ives unconditionally
(H)elps you
(I)nvites you over
(J)ust "be" with you
(K)eeps you close at heart
(L)oves you for who you are
(M)akes a difference in your life
(N)ever Judges
(O)ffers support
(P)icks you up
(Q)uiets your fears
(R)aises your spirits
(S)ays nice things about you
(T)ells you the truth when you need to hear it
(U)nderstands you
(V)alues you
(W)alks beside you
(X)-plains things you don't understand
(Y)ells when you won't listen and
(Z)aps you back to reality

Attitude -- A Real Story

Sandeep Sir is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"

He was a unique manager because he had several software engineer who had followed him around from company to company. The reason the software engineers followed Sandeep Sir was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Sandeep Sir was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Sandeep Sir and asked him, I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?" Sandeep Sir replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Sandeep, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.

"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested. "Yes it is," Sandeep Sir said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."

I reflected on what Sandeep Sir said. Soon thereafter, I left the company to join here. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. two years later, I heard that Sandeep Sir did something you are never supposed to do...he was held up at gun point by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Sandeep Sir was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Sandeep Sir was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

I saw Sandeep Sir about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Sandeep Sir replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live."

"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked. Sandeep Sir continued, "...the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action." "What did you do?" I asked. "Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Sandeep Sir. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'BULLETS!'

Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead'." Sandeep Sir lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.

A chance to Start over

It was a cold December night in West Orange, New Jersey. Thomas Edison's factory was humming with activity. Work was proceeding on a variety of fronts as the great inventor was trying to turn more of his dreams into practical realities. Edison's plant, made of concrete and steel, was deemed "fireproof". As you may have already guessed, it wasn't!

On that frigid night in 1914, the sky was lit up by a sensational blaze that had burst through the plant roof. Edison's 24-year-old son, Charles, made a frenzied search for his famous inventor-father. When he finally found him, he was watching the fire. His white hair was blowing in the wind. His face was illuminated by the leaping flames. "My heart ached for him," said Charles. "Here he was, 67 years old, and everything he had worked for was going up in flames. When he saw me, he shouted, 'Charles! Where's your mother?' When I told him I didn't know, he said, 'Find her! Bring her here! She'll never see anything like this as long as she lives.'"

Next morning, Mr. Edison looked at the ruins of his factory and said this of his loss: "There's value in disaster. All our mistakes are burned up. Thank God, we can start anew."

What a wonderful perspective on things that seem at first to be so disastrous. A business failure, divorce, personal dream gone sour . . . whether these things destroy an individual depends largely on the attitude he or she takes toward them. Sort out why it happened, and learn something from the blunders. Think of different approaches that can be taken.

Start over.

He who FEARS being conquered is sure of DEFEAT

Be always optimistic. Take in good things. Thinking of good makes you good.

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

And every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color of the rainbow. Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man couldn't hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days and weeks passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the world outside. Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it for himself.

He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said, "Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."

Moral of the story:

The pursuit of happiness is a matter of choice...it is a positive attitude we consciously choose to express. It is not a gift that gets delivered to our doorstep each morning, nor does it come through the window. And I am certain that our circumstances are just a small part of what makes us joyful. If we wait for them to get just right, we will never find lasting joy.

The pursuit of happiness is an inward journey. Our minds are like programs, awaiting the code that will determine behaviors; like bank vaults awaiting our deposits. If we regularly deposit positive, encouraging, and uplifting thoughts, if we continue to bite our lips just before we begin to grumble and complain, if we shoot down that seemingly harmless negative thought as it germinates, we will find that there is much to rejoice about.


My love as ever -
Rajnish tripathi